A while ago, Joey had imbibed a little too much while spending the day out back doing some BBQ with his brother. Now, to be fair, he didn’t get fall down drunk. But he did end up passing out on the couch WAY too early in the evening, which eliminated the movie night we had planned on having and had both been looking forward to. When he woke up later that night, like around 11:30pm, he agreed that he had had drank a little too much and was apologetic. I told him that it happens to all of us now and then, but if it happened again in the near future, that I thought there should be additional “consequences”. He agreed and suggested 6 lashes with the Wicked Switch. That was a strong indication that he was serious about it, as anyone who has been a reader of ours for any amount of time knows that Joey DESPISES the Wicked Switch. Anyway, I countered with 10 lashes and we had an accord. 🙂
Just for the record, I’m not going to tell my man NOT to drink, or that it is not OK to get a little buzzed now and then. But in certain situations, I’ll remind him to pace himself as I don’t want him to fall asleep prematurely on the couch and miss the rest of our evening. He actually shares the same sentiment.
So for quite some time there was no re-occurrence. I sometimes forget the power of the Wicked Switch, as it appeared that just the thought of him getting it with that, seemed to have staved off the issue.
But alas…this Saturday the re-occurrence transpired. After a day of BBQ’ing and sipping on one of his favorite bourbons, he was noticeably buzzed, and then was out on the couch within the first 15 minutes of the movie we were going to watch. So I let him “sleep it off” and watched something else instead. When he woke up later, he knew he had messed up and tried flying under the radar. “I’m going to take a quick shower my Queen.” he said as he started towards our room.
“Ok. And bring the Wicked Switch back with you when you’re done,” I calmly stated. He paused for a second, but then went into our room and took his shower. He came back sans the switch.
“Where’s the switch?” I asked. “Oh, I, uh…” he stammered.
“GO. Bring. Me. The switch.” I sternly commanded. He started to plead, but I interrupted him with, “You know what? Right now I’m starting to get annoyed and am going to start adding lashes.” He dejectedly lowered his head as he knew he had earned what was coming. Then he went on “his walk” to go fetch the switch for his whoopin’.”
Good for him that he didn’t take too long, as I had decided that if I felt he was purposefully stalling, I would go find him and whup him with the switch all the way back to the family room, and THEN make him bend over the coffee table for his 10 lashes. He calls me the Wicked Queen for a reason.
He sheepishly showed up with the switch and gently placed it in my hand. I pointed to the coffee table and told him, “Take off your belt and put it on the coffee table, then assume the position.” He looked a little confused but knew I was at the point where I should not be trifled with, and so he did as I had instructed. He placed his belt on the coffee table, then bent over.
Taking a page from the last spanking I gave him, where I told him to think “this is what being bad feels like” as the swats landed; I told him, “With each lash, I want you to say, ‘This is what too much alcohol feels like.’ Do you understand?” “Yes Ma’am,” he softly responded.
Then I began…
SWWIPP – “UUhh…THIS is what too much alcohol feels like.”
SWWIPP – “OOooooo…This is what too much alcohol feels like.”
SWWIPP – “Aaahh…THIS is what too much alcohol feels like.”
…and so on. His voice breaking more and more with each lash.
After the first 5 lashes, I switched sides and delivered the remaining 5 in the same manner.
Afterwards, he turned to kneel before me, when I said, “I didn’t tell you the spanking was over.” “I’m sorry my Queen,” he quickly responded and bent back over the coffee table.
“Number one…I told you to bring the switch initially and you didn’t. I believe THAT is direct defiance. Is it not?” He looked like a deer in the headlights, but then hung his head down and softly said, “Yes’m.”
SWWIPP – SWWIPP – SWWIPP. He was crying out with each harsh lash and trying his best to stay in position. I gave him a couple more and he started to cry. I put the switch on the table in front of him and picked up his leather belt already somewhat doubled over.
“Remember that smart ass comment you made to me during the movie when you WERE awake?” His patented grimace came over his face as he said, “Yes’m,” and braced himself for the belt now coming his way. SMACK – SMACK – SMACK – SMACK – “I’M SORRY MY QUEEN!” he blurted out. “Did I tell you, you could speak?” He shook his head no. SMACK – SMACK – SMACK.
I stopped and contemplated turning this into a woodshed whuppin’ but decided against it. Prior to this, he hadn’t fully earned a trip to the woodshed. Just the 10 for the drinking stipulation, which was now taken care of (plus a few extras), and he had the welts on his butt as proof of purchase. I told him, “Come here.” He turned to me, knelt in front of me, and I played with his hair. “Do you think you can behave the rest of the evening?” I asked. “Yes, my Queen,” he responded, then softly added, “Thank you for the accountability.”
I gave him his belt back and watched as he carefully and painfully pulled his underwear and shorts back up over his sore behind, then put his belt back on. He went and got a soda and we sat and watched a movie cuddling together. When he would shift positions on the couch, the pain of his backside reminded him of what just happened. He would give a slight groan and then try to get comfortable again. I believe this will be a lesson that will have some staying power. After our movie, we went to bed.
I believe I’ve stated on here before that Joey is a pretty upstanding guy. I feel truly blessed to have him as my lover, best friend, partner, and husband. While he does do some things that earn him a spanking now and then, other more serious offenses that I hear other wives or girlfriends complain about, are not an issue with him. Like: going out with “the boys” and staying out all night. Or, coming home drunk, gambling, reckless spending, or flirting with other women. Granted, offenses like those would earn him a significant woodshed whoopin’ for sure.
But as far as less substantial transgressions…can you think of something your husband or boyfriend does, that could be addressed with 10 lashes?
Such a fortunate man, to have such a Wife, truly Incredible… WQ you are Amazing !!
Why thank you Craig. I certainly appreciate that. And I like that “amazing” title. I’ll wear that like my crown for a bit. 😉
Do you ever give hubby a choice of implements as my wife does for me ! I usually choose six of the best with the cane ! Hurts a lot but over quickly ! & She puts lotion on the raised welts ! Thus sometimes turns her on & we have sex right on the floor
Every once in a while I’ll allow him to choose the implement, but most of the time, ~I~ decide what he’s getting it with.
Must say you are a great wife, just like mine who does exactly like you. Keep the good work up! Regards lasse from Sweden
Hi lasse from Sweden and thank you so much for the comment and kind words! Always glad to hear about another couple, doing “this thing of ours”. 🙂
Well, WQ is something special. She is just perfect. It would be awesome if two of you could make a video of punishment.
Hi Walldo and thank you for quite the compliment! As far as a video…Joey has been working on me to allow us posting a video of a spanking session. In fact, we’ve video recorded the last couple whuppin’s from which he’s taken still shot images from to use for the blog. I want to maintain our anonymity but he thinks we can do it and still show the spanking video but blur out our faces. He even bought a boom mic stand to hold a microphone over the end of the bed where I usually have him bend over. We’ll see. He’ll be coming due for a trip to the woodshed and we’ll record it, and maybe, just MAYBE…we might release it or parts of it for sale, for anyone who wants to watch it.
Thank you very much even for taking it into consideration.
Here at home the drink is controlled, there is no exaggeration at any time, the only time was when at a party my husband drank more than he should and came driving the car, the result of which the other day we had a conversation with the belt and the slipper, the beating was all day. Any manifestation the slipper worked. Today he asks me if he can buy beers or not! I authorize it or not.
Yelling or speaking disrespectfully is always enough reason for my wife
Last week I got 10 with the switch/ cane for speaking disrespectfully to my wife when she got home late from a girl’s night. I was annoyed she was late but I spoke to her in a disrespectful way.I deserved every stroke. She took care of it on the spot right after I spoke out of line. I still have the marks as a reminder to always be respectful
That’s a good reason. Glad to hear she is not tolerant of such insolence.
He really pushed his luck. I know that if I had done the same I would deserve every horrible stroke. He is very fortunate that you did not make it an even worse experience for it.
I wish I had someone like you to keep me in line. I only learn to behave properly when my ass get well spanked
Hey there, thanks for the comment. “…every horrible stroke.” is right! He still has marks on his behind from that lesson. As far as finding someone like me to keep you in line, have you checked out this non-vanilla dating service? Hopefully it can help you find that special someone in your area. Good luck to you and hope to hear from you again.
Thank you for your reply and your kind interest in helping me. I can’t really look for a wife to spank me as I have one who I love but is very, very vanilla. I would never leave her. I do feel the need at times to get the correction my behavior requires. It is embarrassing to say, I have to resort to self-spankings. When I am lucky, they are directed by a lady who wishes to help my behavior.
I’ll be keeping my eye on this blog because I love the dynamic you and your husband have.
Oh my bad and I apologize for the suggestion. I would have never suggested or added that link if I knew you were already married. Glad to hear you would never leave her. Just so you know, there have been some husbands and boyfriends on here that have suggested adding this or some variant of what we do, to their relationship. If you haven’t already, check out the blog post I did directed towards women…Why Women Should Consider A F/m Spanking Relationship. We’ve had a variety of feedback from men who have been able to have their wives/girlfriends read this and give it a go. Maybe it is worth a shot? IDK, but wish you the very best and thank you for your comment! 🙂
There is no need to apologize when you didn’t know what the situation is. I do appreciate your suggestions. I’ve had the conversation before with her. She really doesn’t get all of this. I have most often spanked her as part of our foreplay routine and she doesn’t really seem to want to be on the other side especially for discipline.
Just to complicate things I have been mostly a top/spanker my whole life and in that last few years have felt the need to be have some discipline as well. I would call myself a switch and honestly, I have often interacted with some women doms who end up being a intimidated by my tendency to take over. I can’t explain it. I apparently don’t fall into a neat category.
Anyway, I do appreciate your kind interest in helping my situation. I do admire the dynamic that you and your husband have. It has apparently worked out well for you. I’m very interested in your updates and I wish your both the best.
sorry to have posted photos
Why? We don’t have problem with most photos. We just won’t post any photos that have frontal nudity or something we don’t feel is relevant. Your photo was fine. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Today we had a maintenance beating here at home, we tried the famous Hawaiian slides, I have not seen tears in my husband’s eyes for a long time, the slipper is really heavy, laughs, from now on, you are calling me “Madam”, for sure the effect was very good! We will have a great weekend!
Good! What are these Hawaiian slides you mention?
Good night, Havaianas slides, are slippers very used in the discipline here in Brazil, I have a friend who used this model to give her husband a beating, and recommended me. I decided to send my husband to buy and today I did the experiment, it really had a very good result, I think I will leave the slipper in evidence for a few days. Attitudes have improved considerably.
Follows a photo of the beating
I have heard of that brand and will have to check them out very soon! Always good to have a good spanking sandal in my closet or better yet, on my feet! Thanks! Looks like they can redden a bottom really well!
The belt and the slipper are essential in everyday life here at home, my husband knows well, I don’t like anything out of place or messy, so the slipper is a good incentive for good practices, the noise of the slipper already reminds you of your jobs!
I agree. My husband knows the click/clap sounds my sandals make when I walk around the house, and he’s usually more mindful of his attitude when he does! 😉
Wow, it seems that Joey behave lately…
Oh he’s been slipping and has all but earned another trip to the Woodshed. Perhaps this week. We’re looking to video record it as well.
Nothing like a hangover and a sore bottom to make a man reconsider his choices when it comes to alcohol. My husband could not handle alcohol, he became a very nasty person when he was drinking. So nasty in fact that it almost ruined our marriage. Thank God we don’t have that problem anymore. I took control of our marriage 4 years ago and the first thing I corrected was his drinking. He protested of course saying all the men did it but I had to show him he’s not like all the other men and our marriage is not like theirs. Through many “discussions” he finally saw how selfish, irresponsible, and childish his behavior was while drinking.
I am still new to your blog but I love it. The advice you give is very practical and I am looking forward to reading more.
Hi G.T. and thank you for the comment and kind words. Also appreciate you sharing your situation. Men can be wonderful, but most can still act like boys from time to time, which is why this works so well for them. Hope to hear from you again. 🙂
I love that your discipline is real. Not many women spank with the seriousness that you do. I’m sure many of us who don’t have the fortune of having a Wicked wife wish we could stand in for your husband.
Hi Jayross and thank you so much. Although my husband would argue that you would only do that once when it comes to the Wicked Switch. 😉 All kidding aside, it’s been an interesting, fun and rewarding journey to get to this point. We’re actually co-writing a book of which part of it will address…1) How to find a woman spanker and then together evolve into a real spanking situation. And 2) How to work with your existing girlfriend or wife about getting into a spanking relationship and evolving it. It didn’t happen overnight, but there can be a faster path towards what we do, by avoiding certain pitfalls, etc. But first things first…tomorrow Joey has a trip to the woodshed coming. And we’re going to video record the whole session. Should be available for purchase and download next week. 🙂
Oh no Joey , woodshed trip that’s serious what did he do to earn that?
Good GOD, Your husband is such a lucky man! Especially when he is a naughty boy. i wish so much i had that accountability to face when i misbehaved. It is exactly what i need to “re-boot” me to focus better on my behavior and be a good boy. That switch and strap combination was a terrific way to get his attention and inspire better behavior. Excellence on Your part, Queen, for tending to him the way You and he both knew he deserved!
Thank you! Accountability on the backside has been VERY effective for Joey, and can be for most men who are strong enough to submit to it. He hates that switch and after seeing what it can do to him, I don’t blame him.
Thanks for the comments and yes I am quite a lucky guy! I can be a handful from time to time and these attitude adjustments and punishment spankings work very well for helping to keep me in line. Good luck to you!
I rarely overindulge with drinking so my wife is fine with that, and as she rarely drinks she is happy to be our designated driver.
Where I get into trouble is taking this for granted and wanting to stay for another drink when she has already told me that we were leaving soon as she had to drive.
Initially I ignored her on this and paid the price when we got home so now I am very conscious of it and politely refuse our hosts offer…..most of the time.
If I don’t she simply tells me loudly, “No! I told you we were leaving soon….do we need to have a little chat when we get home?”
That shuts me down and to make it worse I never know if we will actually have that ‘chat’until we are home!
Hi Glenmore and thanks for sharing your story. Ah…the power of anticipation. Sounds like your wife knows exactly how to use it! 😉
She certainly does , and she has also mastered the art of dropping subtle comments when I act up in front of others just to remind me that if I don’t smarten up there will be consequences.
I find these to me almost as effective as a spanking sometimes.
I hand swatted her gorgeous bottom several times while she was cooking. I’d received a “3” implement Punishment Spanking the day before and my butt was still tenderized, and actually still pulsating a bit! Getting a PS two days in a row has never happened & I thought I was safe. I swatted her while she was tasting the pasta sauce and she spilled red sauce on her fancy “sheer” blouse! Our Company was coming for dinner soon & She became furious and motioned me to “DROP EM “ and reached over for our cutting board which was once my mahogany hard wood Frat paddle ! But I had modified it by cutting it shorter as she had ordered several years ago. She then angrily delivered 30 horrific swats to my already swollen bottom!! I was screaming after every whack! She then told me to “stir the sauce” while she rushed to change her expensive blouse & soak it before it stained! Later I used the “paddle/cutting “ board to cut the rustic bread for our Italian dinner! And then she HAND SWATTED my sore bottom & I over reacted and “owwwed“ too loud, but our guests laughed about it. Have you ever given Joey woodshed spankings 2 days in a row? From now on, I’ll be walking on egg shells after a PS!
Hi Disgraziato, no…Joey has never done something to earn two woodshed whuppins in two days. He is usually very well behaved for at least a month and a half afterwards. There was a time when he started acting up just two weeks after a real spanking, which told me I did not teach him his lesson well enough. So I took him back to the woodshed and made it EXTRA special. He was then well behaved for two months after that one. 😉
Oh and I hope you washed the cutting board (paddle) you were spanked with, BEFORE you started cutting bread on it! LOL
Hi WQ. I have my own cutting board experience. Since the last autumn when we were dancing around DD with my partner now assuming total control of me. We were in the kitchen and I asked him to bag up the plate of pork chops for the freezer. When I looked he was busy putting them in containers. Somewhat irritated I said, “No, put them in those bag things”. I couldn’t remember the name of what I wanted. When I looked again, he was busy putting them into zip lock bags. I started yelling at him and said, “no, no no, not those” And then I remembered the name, Deco-sonic. I started yelling at him, saying, “Deco-Sonic, Deco-Sonic” By then I was in full melt down, I reached into the fridge looking for something and I spilled a container of soup all over the shelf. I grabbed it spilling more and slammed the container down on the counter, spilling even more. When I turned back to the fridge the door was closed and I felt his hand on my rear. He started spanking me and I thought, Cool! He gave me about 30 smacks over my jeans which I could easily take, then it stopped. I was about to stand when I felt, WHAM! He hit me with something that just about sent me through the wall. I thought, okay, and I bent over and assumed the position. He kept paddling me well past my tolerance and I considered standing up and stopping it. Then I thought, IDIOT! This is what you asked for and this is what you wanted so just stay in position and take it. I did and my rear end was extremely sore and felt on fire! When it was over I stood and saw he had grabbed the convenient thick bread board that had a handle and looked like an overgrown paddle. It had done the trick. I asked him why he chose to spank and paddle me, and his reply was simply, “You looked like you needed it” I sure did and I hugged him in gratitude. Thanks, Don
That is a great example of how the spanking immediately took care of the tension point, and was over. With the couple back on track, with no resentment towards each other, or toxic passive-aggressive actions like silent treatment or withholding affection. Thanks for sharing!
This passive/aggressive thing, we had just about perfected it. There was lots of resentment, silent treatment and high tensions for days on end. Not nice! Now, as you say, the problem is taken care of immediately, or if not then as soon as possible after. Thanks, Don
I no longer drink because in my former m-m relationship my domestic partner was a professional wrestler who really knew how to apply his leather belt to my bare behind for maximum effect. Coming home drunk got me pulled over his lap for a severe hand spanking and then bent over the couch for a repeat with his belt. Usually the next morning with my rear end still burning I couldn’t even look at a whiskey bottle.
Hi Roy. I too know the results of being a bad boy and drinking too much. I’ve been chastised with a severe spanking, Before our change in relationship, I was frowned at and given the silent treatment. That kind of activity went on for days and was very harmful to our relationship. These days I rarely drink to excess and if I’m a little over the limit my husband has also been drinking and we’re both just slightly sloshed and hold onto each other when walking home from a neighbours house. Cheers Don
To Wicked Queen. Even after 30 years of submitting in various venues and with various tops, I still find it amazing that tall and lean and strong men like Joey and myself, would submit to another and take a serious spanking and be reduced to the boy we used to be. I for one understand how bad it feels while it’s happening and how good I will act during the many days of healing process. Cheers, Don
Yes, I applaud you both (and anyone else), who can submit to something like that. It is not easy to do, but as we’ve stated…very effective, and with great benefits. But I’d like to remind anyone else reading this, that we also only endorse a practice that is consensual, safe and sane. 🙂
My partner in our M-m relationship left for a while and I started drinking again since there were zero consequences. The bartender in our local place informed on me and there’s this big guy at our door saying that he was sent to give me a punishment spanking. He pulls me over and pulls down pants and underwear, yanks me over his lap starts with hand spanking then over sofa for a session with his belt. Must have been leather belt and whipped really hard till I was crying hard and yelling between belt strokes. He stopped for a little and said to calm down so he could continue applying his belt to my bare behind. I stopped yelling, he continued applying that belt until all I could do was gasp in between belt strokes. “Still want to drink,” he said to me. I was in total pain but managed to mumble out “No.”