Joey’s List of Transgressions

So, as most of you know, I recently got taken to the woodshed again. Yay me. 🤨 Not for my attitude this time, but for a list of transgressions that Jess has apparently been keeping track of. I forgot to cancel a subscription to a service we no longer use, despite assuring her that I […]

Spanking Machine vs. Nessa?

After my last punishment, I hastily decided I wanted to ramp up the intensity even more. First, I wanted to see for myself if the spanking machine would live up to the hype (I didn’t believe it could). Secondly, I wanted to see just how much I could take. Although I wanted something more intense […]

A Kindred Spirit’s Thoughts

Hi all…Jess here and I’d like to introduce a longtime fan, supporter and now friend of ours “jackbrat”. He has created a post for us, and asked if we would open to sharing it. After reading it through, I am happy to do so. Thanks jackbrat! So, without further adieu… Hello! my name is jackbrat, […]

Nessa Teaches Joey a Harsh Lesson

As some of you now know, I recently earned another woodshed whuppin’. Sh*t! Yeah, I know what you’re thinking…either he likes it, or he’s an idiot. Well I can assure you that I DON’T like it. And if you’ve seen the most recent videos where Nessa tears up my backside, you’ll know that’s the truth. […]

Our World of DD (& Hybrid FLR)

Welcome to our website about domestic discipline and hybrid-FLR (Female Led Relationship). We are an actual couple that practices consensual domestic discipline from a Female-to-male perspective (F/m, Fm). However, you’ll also find various tips and tricks throughout the site. Most tips pertain to spanking and should benefit anyone who gives a spanking (sorry, spankees!). Tips such as traveling with spanking implements, tricks to increase the effectiveness (pain level) of an implement, punishment spanking rules, and more! We’ve recently also started selling some paddles and canes, and we are even offering a spanking machine!

The blog section will be added to most often. This will cover some of the topics above but also provide accounts of actual spankings that my husband has received from me and now from our friend and up-and-coming disciplinarian, Nessa the MEAN Queen. All three of us have written blog posts, which should provide a good perspective from both a top (spanker) and a bottom (spankee).

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The stories are true, as are the spankings. These are consensual but very real domestic discipline spankings. “Consensual” for us means that my husband has asked to be held accountable for his actions and misdeeds, and has consented to receiving actual punishment spankings accordingly. There are no warm-up swats, no rubbing his butt or long pauses between swats during the spanking. And the swats are coming hard, and one right after another. It is a rough experience for him. I commend him for being brave and tough enough to take what I dish out. Because, let me tell you…it is oftentimes very harsh.

belt spanking over bedEven though the spankings I give him are very real and very painful (even to the point of tears), he has told me on many occasions that he appreciates me holding him accountable in this way. He has told me that he feels no resentment for the spanking, as it was earned, and that he feels a sense of calm and balance afterwards. Side note: after a good spanking…he is a model citizen around here – very eager to please, in a great mood, and very productive!

Contrary to what some might think, we DO love each other very much AND respect each other. There is no corner time or belittling or degrading him. That’s not what we’re about. We are just a married couple who have evolved into this domestic spanking agreement and, over the years, have realized that it is a very effective way to enforce rules and address transgressions around our home. At the same time, it significantly reduces the amount of tension between us. For example, has your husband ever done something repeatedly that gets on your last freaking nerve? I think we’ve all heard the infamous “leaves the toilet seat up” complaint. You nag him about it, and even though he is probably not trying to intentionally piss you off by leaving it up, he just doesn’t think about it when he’s going to the bathroom. Why? Because there is no consequence for him in that situation. And so you continue nagging (aka bitching), and he continues to get annoyed, roll his eyes, and likely even laugh about it with his friends. Well, I assure you, if he got a REAL spanking every time he left the seat up, his butt would make the connection to his brain pretty quickly, and he’d start remembering to put the seat back down after he was done. No nagging, no yelling, no annoyance, no tension between the two of you. A rule was broken, it was addressed (real holding razor strapconsequence/real spanking), and a new and improved habit was formed, thus eliminating this tension point from here on out. And even if he were to forget a month or two down the road, I find that I don’t get annoyed because, in my position of power, I know exactly what I’m going to do to address it and eliminate it. I have a recent blog post about this type of thing called “Breaking His Bad Habits“.

This lifestyle has worked very well for us. On all other accounts, we’re very “normal” people. In fact, none of our family and friends know or suspect anything about “this thing of ours.” And we’re often told that we’re one of the happiest, most in-love couples they know.

At any rate, there is more on the About Us page, so check it out along with our previous and forthcoming blog posts.

Thanks for reading!

Love and Lashes – Jess aka The Wicked Queen

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