I learned the hard way that drinking and teasing my Queen do not mix.
It was a Saturday night and I was copping a buzz after having some drinks throughout the day with a neighbor. I felt my machismo kicking in and started smarting off to my Queen throughout the night. My downfall started off simply with a stern look from her. One comment later, she quickly told me that if I didn’t settle down, she’d go get her belt, tan my hide and that this was my last warning.
In my elevated state of intelligence, I noticed that she didn’t use the word “woodshed” or “whuppin’, which perhaps emboldened me to continue messing with her. Another quick sip of my liquid courage and I decided to stay the course.
As I progressed, she started adding swats by groups of 10. When she got up to 30, my brain finally kicked in and sounded a self preservation alarm. But it was already too late. She had gotten up and walked up behind me as I was sitting on the couch. She took her hand and gave my head a long, intentional caress. It was a long, powerful and loving caress but I knew what it meant…pain for my backside. She then headed towards our room to retrieve her belt (or so I thought).
At this point I was only slightly nervous. I knew the belt would hurt pretty bad, but in my somewhat inebriated state, I was feeling my macho power and figured I’d get through it just ok and it would be worth the fun I just had.
But what happened next was FAR worse than I anticipated. She came downstairs with a pissed off look on her face, holding the Wicked Switch! My machismo attitude fled like a scared mouse and left me alone to deal with my Wicked Queen, who was coming directly towards me. And damn, was she riled up! I could tell by the look on her face that she was all about tearing up my backside right then and there.
She told me very sternly, “Drop ’em’ and bend over.” Seeing how mad up she was and knowing how bad that switch hurts, I dropped to my knees and pleaded with everything I had, “My Queen, please…I thought you said you were going to use your belt?” Her retort was quick and severe…a hard lash to the side of my leg that wrapped around to the back of my leg and it STUNG like HELL. Even through my shorts and underwear.
She sternly said, “I will spank you with WHATEVER I decide to spank you with. Now get up, drop ’em and BEND. OVER.” She wasn’t shouting but was talking through her teeth which is worse. “Ok, ok, I’m bending over.” As I took down my shorts and underwear and slowly bent over the coffee table. As soon as I was bent over, one, two, three lashes landed HARD. I cried out and dropped to one knee almost crying. She had never spanked this hard with the Wicked Switch and I was experiencing pain I had never felt before. “My Queen, please, please…let me bring you your belt.”, I pleaded.
Another hard lash of the switch wrapped around and caught the side of my hip. I cried out in pain. Again through her teeth she responded, “If I have to tell you again, I’m going to make this a woodshed whuppin’ with this switch. Last chance, bend…over.” as she held the switch in the ready to strike position.
I was regretting my whole attitude this evening. My butt was stinging from just the few lashes she had given me but I knew if I didn’t comply, it was only going to get worse. I started getting up, telling her, “Ok, ok…I’m bending over.” Fear was rampant throughout my body as I got up and bent back over the coffee table. About 4 more hard lashes landed and even though I’ve been able to maintain position through some very harsh spankings, my ability was not with me this night. Again I fell to my knees, now fully crying and begging, “Pleeeease…I’m so sorry. I want to be good.” Another hard lash to the side of my leg as she said, “Get. Up.” Over the last several years of getting and taking real discipline spankings, I’ve not been tempted to try and use my old safeword from back in the day. Reason being is that IMHO, once you use a safeword, it is no longer a “real” spanking. The urge to try and use my safeword came on strong but I resisted as I knew I had earned this spanking and that nothing was “wrong” with me. I would just be trying to avoid the pain of a real spanking. I got up and mustered all the strength in me to take the remaining lashes. My legs buckling more than she would ordinarily allow but I still was in a position to continue receiving them. Ugly crying through the remaining lashes. It was finally over. 30 lashes are generally not considered a harsh spanking in her playbook. But the pain of that switch and her swinging harder than normal, made it a very rough spanking. I honestly think I would rather have taken 80 with her meanest belt, than the 30 I received.
After the spanking, I fell to my knees in front of her as she put her right foot forward. As quickly as I could, I kissed the top of her foot and apologized again for being bad. She handed me the switch and told me to put it away. Then told me to come back to the couch so we could resume watching TV.
Nice effect on the butt, nice…
Nice effect on his attitude too! 😉
You seem to be very strict with your husband, using canes and switches etc. My girlfriend only uses a paddle. She has left bruises on my bottom on occasion, but mostly her spankings are not overly severe. Would you agree that this is also a valid lifestyle?
Ian
Hi Ian and thanks for the comment. My husband has called me strict but fair. I’m not sadistic by any means but I do take his punishments seriously. He has a somewhat high tolerance for pain and so sometimes I have to break out the switch or cane to “get his attention”. But honestly, I spank him more often with my belt (or sometimes his own). If given a choice, he would always choose a belting over a caning or spanking with the switch. But I assure you…it is still quite the lesson for him and tears are almost always present when I take him the “the woodshed” for a belting. In fact, I can give him a severe belting that will have positive effects on his behavior for about a month if not more. We have several paddles too but I haven’t used one on him in a while. We have a paddle page in the works on the site, that I need to have him finish. Maybe that’ll be his “motivation”. 😉
Thanks for your reply. Yes, people do have differing pain tolerances. If your husband has a high tolerance for pain, it is clear that you have to discipline him quite severely to have an effect. A week or two ago, as part of a medical examination, a woman doctor inserted a probe into my nose. It hurt slightly as she took it out and she apologized. I said it was not her fault, I am very susceptible to pain during medical examinations, unlike my girlfriend, who hardly seems to notice. The doctor said this coincided with her experience: men tend to have a lower pain tolerance than women. I was tempted to say: “Oh yes, my girlfriend only needs to give me a few smacks with the paddle when she spanks me!” I can imagine the doctor writing it down along with the other notes she had made: “Patient stated that a small number of blows with a flat implement administered on his buttocks by his partner cause sufficient pain to induce him to comply with her wishes.”
😂😂
I’m a switch, and I love getting and giving strict corporal punishments. When I see marks on the butt, or on the back, I go into ecstasy
After I get a good leather strapping on my bare behind I love to look at the red welts that were raised. Our bedroom mirror provides an excellent view of the strap being applied and the results.
Ouch! I always look forward to new posts. I was surprised/not surprised to see real pics post thrashing, but it is appreciated 🙂 (Not surprised for it was discussed in an earlier thread.) This site is valuable to a lot of us newbies. I share this with my girlfriend, and she is becoming more dominant each week in our FLR. We continue with weekly maintenance sessions and in one of them she bruised me pretty good. I asked how she felt, for I was concerned it might have scared her. In past she has been afraid to hurt me and errs on side of caution. Her reply was one word and sent chill up my spine: “Powerful.” 😲
Oohhh, you done did it now junior! LOL 😉
Hi Mark, Glad to hear your gf is realizing the “power”, that we women have but is often untapped. I DO remember when I first started realizing this power and how empowering it felt and still feels today. When I ask or tell my husband to do something and he is slow to do it or is being a brat about it, all I have to do is start to unbuckle my belt and he is up and at ’em, apologizing along the way. Good power to have. 😉
My wife is a classical spanker, she uses the most common mommies spanking implement, that is her slipper / sandal whatever footwear she is wearing.
She takes it off, chase spanks me till I am cornered, then leans me on one of her legs, bares my ass and spanks me till she thinks I got enough.
Sometimes, if we are sitting on the sofa, she pulls me OTK, starts with a few hand spanks, then lowers my boxers and whack me on the bare with her long fingers on the fleshy part if she is playful.
But most of the time, it is otk, pulls her slipper from her foot and wallops my bare ass.
There is something very “domestic” about those classic spankings. I love to wear sandals and so it is not uncommon for me to take one off in the spur of the moment to give Joey a few whacks with it to settle him down. Or to take my belt off right on the spot and have him bend over the coffee table for a impromptu spanking. I also love the OTK leg lock position to really give it to him good with my sandal or with a bath brush.
Dear Queen
Just love your comment to John’s message regarding sandals. You say that “there is something very “domestic” about those classic spankings.” Couldn’t agree more. A good sandal spanking is very “homely” indeed.
Sandals – or more precise: flat leather slides – have always been my preferred implement for years for keeping Stef at bay. Just like you I just love to wear them whenever I can: Inside just simply always, outside whenever the weather allows.
I always buy softly padded leather sandals as I adore the feel. It is like walking on clouds and having your feet constantly pampered when walking or dishing out a good spanking.
Over the years I guess I have acquired sort of a “hunter’s instinct” to find at the shoe-stores comfy leather slides that feel good on the feet but sting satisfactorily. And I do not feel abashed to pat my palm with them at the shoe-store to test them. I don’t care what other shoppers eventually might think, but I have not observed any quizzical looks so far anyway.
One of Stef’s “accountability tasks” is to keep my sandals and wedges in an enjoyably good shape.
For that I had him make an inventory of my flats and wedge slides – also including my wooden exercise sandals. He must attend to them, so they always feel good on my feet. For that he has to apply hand- or body lotion of my choosing to the paddings and to plan the rotation ahead so I always have some well-creamed pairs at my disposal. If I feel on my feet that a pair of my slides has not been serviced properly to my satisfaction, then Stef is in for a VERY good caning.
While I am writing these lines, Stef is standing nearby at the kitchen table and is polishing with a soft cotton cloth the padding of the slides he had creamed last night.
Hi Sandy, always a pleasure to hear from you. I just love how similar many of our thoughts and viewpoints are. I fully appreciate your comment about having a “hunter’s instinct” when shopping for sandals/slides. For quite some time now, when I buy sandals or belts, I’m always thinking of their “other” abilities. 😉 LOVE the thought of you at a shoe store, smacking a sandal or slide on your hand. If I was present, I would certainly know what that meant.
I too have tasked Joey with upkeep on my sandals and belts and when he hears the words, “This belt is a little dry.” He knows he is in for a harsh little lesson. 1) I have him oil it in front of me. 2) He gets it with a freshly oiled (and now heavier) belt.
Thanks again for checking in and have a great rest of your week!
Dear Queen
Many thanks for your kind words.
I had to smile when I read “smacking a sandal on your hand” at the shoe-store. Well, that is not exactly how I do it. There is of course a little more “camouflage” about it. I will eventually pick the slide I am interested in from the rack in the store and lightly pat my left palm with it – like lost in thought – while contemplating the other models on the shelf. This will give me just enough info on the weight and the elasticity of that slide to judge wether it will have the desiered “draw” when I let it dance on Stef’s bare…
Have a good week
Sandy
Dear Queen, just wondering have you ever given Joey a choice of implements to be used on him? My Royal wife never does! She loves to surprise me when we play!
In the past I gave him more choices. But as of late, I normally decide on what he’s going to get it with. Most of the time, I tell him days or even weeks before the actual spanking, so he can fret about it a bit. 😉
Hmmm what are the daily conversations like when Joey knows in a matter of days he’ll be sleeping on his stomach? I walk on egg shells for several days hoping she’ll be lenient but to no avail. She walks around with a seemingly perpetual smile & smirks when we make eye contact. I have trouble concentrating for days before a punishment spanking. I’d rather be spanked ASAP 🥲
For the most part, Joey won’t bring them up, but as the spanking draws closer, I can almost feel him getting a little nervous. And if he acts up or is being bratty in the days before, I almost enjoy reminding him, that I’m going to spank that smart attitude right out of his backside. He has also mentioned many times before, that he’d just rather get the spanking over with, instead of the impending thoughts of the pain and punishment, coming his way.
Congratulations WQ and a big “ahh” for poor Joey. Thanks for sharing your stories of DD and allowing others like me to reinforce how powerful and satisfying it is to beat your man severely. It seems to me that the reality of consensual discipline is that the man (or woman) who has requested spanking really needs that experience to not only fulfill his life’s fantasies but also to overcome frustrations that build within his psyche over times. I notice with my man that he becomes tense and short tempered if he is not spanked on a regular basis. He can also begin to use sharp comments or mild rudeness to me and I know instantly that he is craving a whipping. In our early days while exploring the benefits of spanking I tended to be very reserved with the severity of his beatings but that did not seem to be satisfactory for either of us. I felt that I did not want to injure him in any way so I would tend to back off immediately he started to squirm or scream slightly. In those early days (and even to a certain extent these days) we discuss the punishment afterwards to make sure that he does not think I am being abusive and I would share my thoughts that if it was to be a real punishment I should be the one to decide when he has suffered enough and when the beating should stop. Over time I would work up to more serious whippings – a little more each time, a little longer and a little harder. This built up my confidence that I would not injure him but I could make him suffer, teach him a lesson and demonstrate that he could take serious beating with no permanent ill effects. I do not give him an “ultimate” whipping every time he needs punishment as I feel that would tend to verge on abuse but I do sincerely appreciate and enjoy the opportunity to give him a thorough beating. I have to admit that really putting my arm and shoulder into particularly evil and vicious cane strokes turns me on like crazy. Watching those red welts form, seeing him squirm like a worm on a hook and hearing his grunts and squeals of pain make me incredibly wet and give me a powerful sexual high. Does that make me a bad wife and woman? – No because he repeatedly tells me he needs it and feels so much more relaxed and capable after a really good whipping. The other day I saw the signs that he was craving discipline so I ordered him to bare his bottom and bend over the end of the bed. Then using this neat dog whip that he bought on line I laid some magnificent straight welts across his cheeks and upper legs. His butt after just 12 strokes. After a total of 50 strokes I had him mewing like a baby and his butt was glowing bright red all over. Afterwards he thanked me, I ruffled his hair, gave him a hug and a big kiss and let him know “any time it’s needed babe” and told him how much I love him.
Hello Tina and thanks for the comment! It is amazing how similar in experience and thought we are. I’ve noticed a similar trend with Joey regarding getting a bit unruly, frustrated, etc., when he hasn’t been taken down a notch or two. He always has been an assertive/aggressive person as long as I’ve known him. Always pushing the limits and always holding himself to a high standard in many, if not most things. So it doesn’t surprise me that we eventually evolved into this “thing of ours”. And like you, it took me a bit to be able to spank him harshly. I didn’t want to hurt him either. I love this man. If he gets hurt, I want to be there to fix it and make it better. But consensual discipline is different, and the accountability that comes with it is something he requested and thanks me for often. The trust and intimacy of our relationship has never been stronger. I too don’t “take him to the woodshed” every time. There are often just some attitude adjustments that happen or quick impromptu spankings. But, when he’s acting up, he knows there are consequences and accepts them willingly and thanks me afterwards for cultivating him. Hope to hear from you again.
My wife gave me 12 of the best with her meanest cane. It was the first time she used her thickest cane. Each welt, to her surprise was raised significantly, compared to her thinner canes. One welt was bleeding profusely, so she quickly put antiseptic & soothing lotion on it. She then put a bandage on it. Then with a worried look on her face She gave me a kiss. But then she pointed to my punishment corner where I stood for almost an hour while she did household chores. Do you ever have to put “bandaids “ on Joey’s butt after a caning?
I’ve broken skin on a couple of occasion over the years. Yes with the cane. But also with the switch and a paddle with holes that weren’t beveled. In fact the paddle I used on him for his last spanking (Readers’ Choice Spanking), was the one that broke his skin because of the non-beveled holes. He has since sanded those down so it is no longer an issue, as you could tell by watching that spanking. Anyway, breaking his skin is certainly not what I’m going for, but we talked about it and know that sometimes that can happen still with the cane and or switch.
Dear Tine
I just love to read your contribution.
I fully share your sentiments about a man becoming tense and short tempered if he does not get spanked frequently. It’s not that my husband really would” crave” a spanking; he actually is rather terrified when he sees me approaching with the cane wedged under my arm.
However, it happens every so often that – when the last good spanking has blurred in his mind – he starts to get cheeky again and to exceed his limits. I often notice a change in his behavior especially after he has had a couple of beers with his pals. Then there is the macho again, and again have the same old topic of disrespectful and intolerable behavior. For that very reason I am contemplating to introduce by-weekly “maintenance spankings” to refresh Stephan’s memory from time to time. I am still undecided.
And I am also glad that you mentioned the figure of 50 strokes. Stephan would usually get something between 30 to 50 lashes – and that is enough to reduce him to a sobbing puppy that then is always very, very sorry…. In awe I read the number of strokes that poor Joey appears to get when he is “in for it”.
And I am glad that you breached the topic of getting aroused when giving your husband a hiding.
I was starting to get a bad conscience for getting aroused at times when giving Stephan a good thrashing. I do not normally get aroused when I spank Stef on the spot when he has driven me mad and I spontaneously give him a good thrashing. However, when he gets a spanking I condemned him for in advance, then I mostly enjoy the sound of the falling lashes and Stef’s yelling.
Just recently it even happened that I had to give Stef a good thrashing while my oldest friend and neighbor Susanne was there. Stef had insulted her. I would have sent Susanne home, but she insisted to stay, guessing rightly what Stef was in for. I am still in upheaval about that development of things..
I wonder what other ladies think about this…
Sandy
Oh, Sandy! So much of your post rings true in our household! If Joey hasn’t had his manners adjusted before he hangs out with two different friends in particular, I know for a fact there will be a trip to the woodshed in his immediate future afterwards. I could see where maintenance spankings would be incredibly helpful in keeping my husband even-keeled. Sometimes life just gets in the way and you can’t dole out the earned discipline in a timely manner. I’ve found that the best way to shape his behavior is to try to time the punishment to the infraction (or the reward if he has gone above and beyond to anticipate my needs) as closely as possible. Sometimes things accumulate and it is what it is. I make no apologies. If he has had a recent “attitude adjustment”, he is much less likely to go off the deep end when he gets some liquid courage in him (be it alcohol OR testosterone LOL). The subject of other people being privy to our spankees plight is an interesting one. To our knowledge, no one has ever heard me discipline my husband. There are probably people in our inner circle that suspect that Joey gets a “spanking” now and then. They probably assume he gets a few swats that he rather enjoys. It is not uncommon when he is being particularly ornery, as he is known to be, that I take off my belt or my sandal and whack him with it in plain sight. They’ve all seen it — friends and family alike. The occasion is usually met with laughter and people yelling, “hit him again”! They all know he can be a handful. But they all also see that we have a very playful, affectionate, mutually respectful relationship as well. I think that whether or not other people know about your lifestyle or whether or not you let other people be present during a spanking is an entirely personal choice. I would just recommend, obviously, that there is a thorough discussion to make sure that you and your partner are BOTH comfortable with who knows, how much they know, and what degree of confidentiality you are going to expect from that person.
Hi WQ, Joey and now Sandy, I’m really enjoying these exchanges. It demonstrates that there are couples, out there in the real world, who have discovered the amazing benefits of DD. To further paint our personal picture let me describe my man. Tim is a tall, well shaped man, confident, handsome and debonair particularly in his “power” suit. Whenever he gives a presentation in his vanilla world his confidence and easy good nature capture the audience and I feel remarkably proud of him – it also turns me on. I glance around and see quite a few ladies infatuated with his every movement and I feel honored that he is mine. As I watch him captivating the audience I find it difficult not to smile thinking about how the night before I had him naked, standing in front of me lecturing him like a school boy before I whipped his backside. He is a strong man, with a quick wit and a cultivated aggression that he uses very successfully in his business world. He carries a lot of responsibility which can result in stress but he always gives the impression to his colleagues that he is supremely confident and can solve and rise above any problems. He normally can – so why is it that he is the one that originally asked me to use spanking as correction? As most of us in this sort of relationship have done we discussed every aspect of this spanking request and it appears that because he is so self-driven he needs someone to pull him back occasionally and remove all responsibility from his shoulders. He also realized that because of this desire for almost perfection he could be a really annoying companion and that only made him feel guilty. This, in our early relationship, made me react with deep sighs of exasperation and giving him the silent treatment which could then result in him being petulant and me, more exasperated. We, at this time enjoyed spanking as foreplay and one day he simply said I hate all these hidden bad feelings isn’t there some way we could just get it out in the open and deal with it and move on. Further discussion led to our spanking rules – which actions would result in him being punished. Now instead of sulking, periods of silence or corrosive nagging which many couples endure, we both understand what is expected of him. Any shortcomings will be dealt with later so there is no need to get frustrated or to make an issue of anything. We developed our own method of conveying my displeasure at any infractions and he was fully aware that it would mean an entry in a punishment book which in turn would be reviewed at a later date and he would be “sentenced” to a punishment. Most of our time is spent in a gentle and very loving relationship where we support each other, share the chores and have fun together. His punishment is the only time that we may appear to be in conflict, at all other times our relationship is warm and intimate. It seems strange that to hurt him physically results in him being closer and more emotional to me even when the punishment has been hard for him to bear. That feeling is also reciprocated in me and I have so much affection and love for him especially after he has accepted a really intense whipping from me. It’s sort of weird but the main thing about Domestic Discipline is trust. We have shared our innermost fantasies and exposed honestly who we both are and what we both really need. We have analyzed these and worked out how we can both be satisfied. This sharing of our vulnerabilities exposes our very souls which can only add to the strength of our relationship. After all, if you can act out such scenarios and live by them there is very little, if anything, you need to have to keep from your partner. Domestic Discipline is based on love and closeness and is enabled through a consensual agreement between two people who decide that this is how they are going to live – and this is how we live and I love whipping him. (Sorry just noticed I spelt my name wrong – got so excited writing that I completely forgot to check the spelling).
Hi again Tina and thank you for sharing such a beautifully written example of how DD can strengthen and deepen a relationship! I think it also speaks to what may be a misconception held by some people about what it means to be a male who receives physical discipline from their partner. In an upcoming blog post, I’ll go into more detail about my thoughts on that. I can’t speak for what motivates other couples but what you described is so close to our (mine and Joey’s) situation, it gave me chills. Seriously. Joey is good-looking, charismatic, and kind. He is confident (to the point of being cocky at times). He is also successful, driven, hard-headed, and a complete perfectionist. He is direct and assertive and can be downright aggressive. He is his own worst critic and sometimes his own worst enemy. When he was younger he had (and still has) situations where he struggles to control his aggression. He is an alpha male, no doubt about it. As you described, Tina, there is something so intimate about watching your partner and knowing what you know. You know an intimate secret…not just about him but about your relationship with him. It is a heady aphrodisiac in my opinion! But you also speak to how it helps rein in not just the aggression but, as Joey describes it, it takes him out of the drivers seat for a while. Because it is consensual, there is no loss of pride or masculinity (in his eyes or in mine). Always good to hear your thoughts. Take care and hope to hear from you again soon!
I think it’s good that you whack your husband with your belt or sandal in company. My girlfriend sometimes gives me a few swats on my bottom with her hand in front of other people, but she has never used an implement. She seems to enjoy doing this when other women are present. If she said she wanted to let someone else be present during a spanking (say her girlfriend who has seen her swat my bottom a few times), I would find it embarassing but at the same time exciting and I don’t think I would object.
Dear Queen
Many, many thanks for your highly appreciated reply. It looks like we both are getting confronted time and again with the very same old nuisances of intolerable behavior of our hubbies after they have had a glass to many or when certain friends are there. I wonder if Stef will ever learn, no matter how solidly he got his hind cheeks solidly spanked before – or “versohlt” as we say here in Germany. The term “versohlt” actually derives from spanking deftly with the sole of a slipper or sandal. I just love the expression as it brings it neatly to the point. Giving him a good “soling” with one of my whacky slides still is my favorite method when I have to discipline Stef.
I still do not know what I want to make of the situation where my closest friend Susanne’s had insisted to stay when I had to deal with Stephan for his demonstrated intolerable disrespect for her. I guess it was sort of a “quid pro quo” for her as she apparently had felt deeply humilated by Stephans’ comment in the garage. I will leave that topic aside for a while until I see clearer…
Sandy
Hallo Sandy, I am also in Germany. You can tell your husband that he is not the only German man who is spanked by his partner. My girlfriend spanks me sometimes, although she is not as strict as you are. You mention the the word “versohlen”. I used it a short time ago in embarassing circumstances. I had to have a small operation in hospital under full anesthetic. Under the anesthetic I dreamed that my girlfriend had threatened to spank me. While I was waking up and still not fully conscious, I said in a loud voice “Meine Freundin wird mir den Hintern versohlen.” (My girlfriend will spank my bottom.) The nurse looked at me, but she did not say anything.
Hello Ian,
I would have liked to see that look on that nurse’s face.. No, seriously: I don’t think she would have paid much attention to that remark as it was uttered out of any conceivable context at a hospital. She would rather have thought that she had misunderstood something. But just a quick question: Why would you believe I am stricter than your girlfriend? Yes, I try to be consequent (sometimes more, sometimes less I’m afraid)… and when Stef really steps out of bounds I would mostly just use one of my stingy slide sandals or the rattan carpet beater. And – in contrast to poor Joey – Stef would normally “only” get some 30 to 40 lashes (which, however, are sufficient to reduce him to a sobbing tall boy – or as we put it in German – “um ihn windelweich zu hauen”. Still he will not get all these strokes at once. I like to devide them into a series of short thrashings of about 7 – 8 strokes at rapid-fire speed (then my arm usually gets tired..). Then he will be scolded again for a brief “intermezzo” before I move on to the next short thrashing. This procedure I will normally repeat for some three to five times – depending on my mood and the gravity I have attached to his infraction.
And – on second thought – this actually only applies to the carpet beater and the cane. With the sandal he would normally get a series of pre-set sequences of 3, 4 or 5 strokes in a row onto the very same spot per cheek, then I will move down an inch or two towards his thighs.
Compared what poor Joey apparently gets I feel this is picknick…
And this would just happen maybe once a month as Stef normally is a very considerate husband and a gentleman – if just there were not the frequent bursts of testosterone or these frequent rounds of beer with his pals.. (sigh…).
HI Sandy
You are probably right about the nurse not paying much attention to the remark. But I don’t think she misunderstood it, I spoke quite loudly and clearly. For the rest of my stay in the hospital I hoped that she would ask me why I had said it. Then I would have said that my girlfriend spanks me quite often.
As to your question, your discipline of your husband is mild compared to what Joey gets, but there seems to be a wide range of severity. We have met two other couples who are into F/M spanking: One wife canes her husband and usually gives him at least 20 strokes when she punishes him. She keeps a cane hanging on the wall, her close friends and relatives have seen it and know what it is for. The other wife uses just her hand or a wooden spoon, she says this is enough to keep her husband in line. Her discipline is not very severe but it is frequent. At the slightest sign of disobedience she tells him to take his trousers and underpants down and bend over her knee.
Hi Sandy,
I noticed after posting my last comment that you had asked two questions and I failed to address them but here are my personal views for what they may be worth. The two questions were 1) should you give maintenance spankings and 2) should other people witness your man being punished.
It is interesting that when we first started using DD to moderate Tim’s behavior it seemed like he was always standing in front of me waiting for his punishment – often for the same offense. Obviously I was being too lenient and he was not suffering sufficiently for the spankings to be a deterrent. I decided to substantially increase the severity of his whippings until they were excruciating. This proved to be the deterrent needed and his overall behavior improved exponentially. This, however, caused a
problem for me. Although I loved his increased care and personal attention with
all its tenderness and thoughtful actions I missed the thrill of beating him. I
realized I had become something of a sadist and I loved having him present his
naked backside for a thorough whipping. I loved the power and the intense
sexual turn on. Now he was becoming so “good” that it was difficult to find a
reason to whip him. I discussed this dilemma with Tim and we both agreed
that we would incorporate maintenance spankings into our repertoire. These now
take place each Friday night and the nature of these gratuitous punishments
assert my dominance over him and significantly raise my libido. Although they
are “maintenance” I still have him squirming beautifully while making painful
cries. I love it. Afterwards I cuddle and comfort him and then lead him to our
bed. The passion that follows is amazing – gentle stroking, playing and
touching with no overwhelming urgency just incredibly tender – directly
opposite to the excruciating pain I had just made him suffer. It is as if I
have trained him to appreciate what I need without him thinking of his own
satisfaction – quite different to most men’s approach to sex. So to summarize I
would fully encourage you to experiment with maintenance spankings.
On the subject of allowing others to witness
Tim being spanked, or even being aware of our way of life, I have major
reservations. I know very well that public play is a great fantasy for many. It
is for us. We often talk about a fantasy scene where we are sitting at a bar,
beside two attractive young ladies and I pick an argument with Tim and tell him
loudly he is going to be caned so hard when we get back home. When we have the
attention of the two girls I ask them if they would like to help me punish my
man. Good fantasy but in reality this could be incredibly dangerous for our
private lives. We both have fairly high profiles and if the word got out that
he is whipped it could cause some major issues with perception of his strength
and ability to conduct business. It could also create an inappropriate belief
even with family members that because he allows me to whip him that he is
somehow weak. In reality I have so much respect for him and recognize his courage
to submit to me and accept these extreme beatings. In addition we both actually
love our secret way of life. It would somehow dilute the sexual thrills if
others knew about our “solution” to an amazing life style and marriage. There
is also the danger that, no matter how well and for how long you may have known
someone, some minor disagreement or a little too much alcohol and she may
“spill the beans”. Everyone, especially in our lifestyle, has the right to
conduct their relationship however they choose but for us we will not share
publicly.
Oh Tina
Many, many thanks for all the time and effort you put in sharing your feelings and your opinion to my questions. I do appreciate your open words so much..
Maybe I will follow your good example and introduce maintenance spankings, including the play-time thereafter ;-).
As to Susanne’s wish to be present when I punished Stef for his behavior to her, I admittedly was taken off-balance then. I had never expected her to wish to stay. I never breached that topic again ever since, and Susanne has not made any remarks whatsoever so far. I feel somehow it has become somewhat of a taboo-topic, and I guess I shall leave it at this.
Stef also has pleaded repeatedly not to be spanked again in Susanne’s presence, saying it had been so humilating. I had to tell him that Susanne also had felt very humilated by his comments, and Stef finally accepted having deserved it.
I think we will leave it at this..
I just shared your site with my wife, she spanks me but usually not as severe as you do Queen . She only spanks for discipline reasons I am hoping she reads the part about your Woodshed trips and they need to be severe so I don’t forget the lesson to quickly lol. Somewhere I read that ypu posted an article about why wives should discipline there husbands but I can’t find it?
Thank you
Dan
Hi Dan and thanks for your comments! Glad to see you shared the site with your wife as well. It is nice to hear from others in similar scenarios. While I do spank Joey severely from time to time, it is only because he has a high threshold for pain and it has increased as he has subjected himself to real spankings. But a spanking doesn’t need to always be severe to get the message across. Be careful what you wish for as far as her starting to give you severe spankings. 😉 Oh, and that article your looking for is here: Why Women Should Consider A F/M Spanking Relationship. Have a great rest of your week!
This is what my Spanking this afternoon is all about! I drank too much and let my mouth start writing checks and I put my Butt in to Overdraft!
I had not seen her for several weeks and felt she had not responded to my messages fast enough! Well she wasted no time calling me on it and Sitting won’t be fun for several day! She does not tolerate Disrespect or when told to do something Disobediance!
Besided her I have Four friends on the Mainland who do Discipline as a Profession!
One have been on the “Dr’s” So when I run my mouth after drinking a little to much!
I feel the Hurt I did to her when she sees me!
I literally LOL’d at, “…and let my mouth start writing checks and I put my Butt in to Overdraft!” Oh, that’s good! Ah, yes…the liquid courage and get my husband into a bit of trouble.
Recently at a dinner with some friends i casually mentioned a health problem she was having. The conversation for the next hour was about her “private” 🙄 problem! Afterwards she got up to go to the ladies room, and casually leaned over with a broad smile on her face, kissed me on the cheek, and whispered in my ear, “You’ll be sleeping on your stomach tonight.” Sure enough later that evening my bottom was fiercely throbbing & pulsating & i surely had to sleep on my stomach!
Three of the most frightening words my wife ever texted to me, seemingly out of the blue…“Tonight the CANE!” I didn’t find out why until she gave me 12 of the best. She was dunned for no payment of our property taxes! Later I found the the envelope with the payment stuffed into the sun visor of my car. Do you text Joey like so also?
When a woodshed whooping (for me) is looming, J is as always, her ebullient, cheerful self! Most of our friends would never guess how severe she can swing a mean paddle or cane. I once was talking to a neighbor and she gently called out to me and said aloud with her semi-smile & bright eyes “Honey it’s time”! So i quickly walked towards her and she pecked me on the cheek & waved, while smiling to our neighbor. She then read from her list of my bad behaviors which amounted to only 4 faux pas, so i received 100 swats 25 x 4 with 4 different instruments! After corner time she was humming a tune while applying meds & bandages on the broken skin on my butt from her cane. My cheerful loving wife! PS Do you play nurse afterwards w/ Joey 😄
Sounds like she runs a “tight ship”. 🙂 As far playing nurse to Joey’s backside…after a spanking with the cane or wicked switch, there are sometimes a few spots that need tending to. And so yeah, I take care of him, while reminding him, why he shouldn’t be “bad”.
I hate/love the cane. My wife is usually turned on by my many raised welts afterwards. She counts by “brail” and whispers in my ear during sex “15,16,17, ahhh you deserved every one my dear”. BUT, this is followed by a long corner time and me writing many lines because there is supposed to be “no reward after a punishment spanking”. But a wrecked bottom for me was worth it!
Dear Queen, we had a pool party and about an hour before, my Queen used her thickest cane on my bottom. She had been angry and left so many strokes marks on my flanks! So I couldn’t wear bathing suit. I had to wear jogging pants for the rest of the party! I ‘m wondering if Joey had to where clothing to cover any of his marks?
That’s a funny story. I usually include the upper backs of Joey’s thighs when I spank, but I don’t go low enough where the marks would show below shorts or swim trunks. So, he hasn’t really had to wear longer pants to cover his marks. 🙂