So what are “Real Spankings”? Well for us (and most importantly), it is consensual. Meaning both my Wife and I have already agreed to real spankings as a consequence for my transgressions and/or poor attitude. I also think it’s important to point out that the verbiage “consensual spanking”, generally has a connotation of being a fun spanking. And while it certainly can be, it can also mean domestic discipline spankings. These are spankings that have been earned from a list my Wife and I came up with and on the occasion where I get out of line.
A real spanking is just that. Very REAL. Meaning there is no warm up spanking, the implement used is a pretty harsh one and the object is to teach me a lesson by way of corporal punishment. Swats are giving in control, but HARD and one right after another. The only modest break between swats is when she walks to the other side of me to spank from that new position. With a belt/strap, cane or switch, this provides coverage for ALL of the backside. Not just one side getting the brunt of it. My Wife is an equal opportunity butt blister-er! 🙂
It takes quite a bit of mental effort to submit yourself to a real spanking, especially when you truly understand how bad it is going to hurt. I would be willing to bet that most people won’t subject themselves to that. Which is fine. Perhaps my article on fun spanking will be a better and more appropriate read. But if you really feel like you want to explore what real spanking is and has to offer, then please continue to read.
So, let’s break down the components of a real spanking:
- Communication – Yes, just like a fun spanking, a real spanking needs good solid communication beforehand. As you can imagine, this is even more important in this scenario. Again, both the spanker and the spankee should be on the same page as to whose role is what and what exactly a real spanking is. You should communicate whether or not there is going to be a safeword like like there would be in a fun spanking. In my humble opinion, there shouldn’t be the use of a safeword in a REAL spanking. BUT you need to trust your partner and your partner needs to not abuse that trust. Perhaps a good starting point would be to have a safeword but as the spankee and one agreeing to a real spanking, you shouldn’t use it unless there is an actual emergency. This is going to be hard to do because self preservation will kick in and you’ll say just about anything to stop the spanking from coming. But then you have to ask yourself…are you really ready to accept a real spanking or is it just a fantasy for you? No judgement from me. I like fantasy too and am a firm believer in “to each their own”. But again, fantasy is not on the same page as a real spanking. And as a person who has been on the receiving end of many REAL spankings, I can tell you that there is nothing “fun” about them. But they do work.
- Implements – As this is a punishment spanking, the spanker should use an implement that is going to be quite painful. That’s what a real spanking is. A painful lesson that will punish, adjust poor attitude, improve bad behavior and prevent future occurrences.
- Infractions – Some in a true FLR (Female Led Relationship) leave the citation of infractions solely up to the wife/girlfiend. And while my Wife can and sometimes will spank me for infractions she has deemed a “spankable offence”; for the most part, I know what the rules are and what the likely consequences will be should I break them.
- Rules – Unlike fun spankings where the goal is fun and foreplay, Real spankings should be “all business”. They should follow a very regimented protocol to maximize their effect and hence, effectiveness. The next post we put up, will be our domestic discipline spanking rules as written by my lovely and strict wife, that we follow for almost every spanking. That list of rules will give you a good starting point to create your own, OR you may like it like it is.
- Spanking – While the spanking rules article referenced above, goes into detail on spanking, to make this post complete, I need to at least address it at a surface level. Unlike fun spankings, there are no warm up swats, or starting off with a “nice” thuddy implement to help the spankee get through and take the harsher implements easier. No hand spanking, no rubbing his butt in between swats. NO. It is a real, and very harsh spanking from the very first swat to the last. And given one swat right after another.
- Post Spanking – After I’ve gotten a real spanking, I’ve got (at the least), tears in my eyes and regret in my heart for being bad. She doesn’t believe in chastisement, scolding or belittling me. She loves me and I love her. I just earned a real spanking and got it. The punishment is over. She’ll usually hold me or we’ll hug and she’ll kindly tell me that I need to be good. Which I’m very eager to be at that point. Also, there is no sex after a real spanking. This wasn’t foreplay.
Some may think less of those who “get spanked by their wives” but I would challenge them to try and see if they are man enough to take an actual REAL spanking and be able to withstand the severe pain that comes with it. Stay in position and let her keep on wailing. I would guess that 95% of them would “tap out”. It is easy to agree to an actual, corporal punishment session but after that first lash lands (with no warm up), your brain goes into self preservation mode and most will say or do whatever they can to get out of the rest of the spanking instead of doing their best to maintain position and take whatever is given. However, I have been doing it and it has done wonders for my attitude, balance and general disposition. I don’t like these types of spanking but appreciate them for what they are and do.
Improvement In Other Areas
Lastly, these real domestic discipline sessions have helped me improve my habits and other areas in my life. We’re all humans and we all have flaws or areas that we need to work on. So when I decide to work on one of my shortcomings, I communicate that to my wife and we come up with a real spanking consequence for it. It is AMAZING how much more you find yourself keeping to task or working on your improvement, when your ass is literally on the line.
If you’re tough enough to take them and your Wife/GF is open to giving a real one…Spankings work.