In our house, when I assign my husband a punishment spanking, there are rules that I have created to make sure his punishments are consistent and effective. Below are the current rules I gave him with some added detail.
- Sentencing – If I am wearing the implement to be used for the spanking (like my sandal or belt), I will take it off and then sit in the big chair in our room (which becomes my Throne anytime I sit in it). If I have decided on spanking you with a different implement, then I will send you to get it, along with their corresponding sandals if I’m not already wearing them. You will hand me the implement, kneel in front of me and put the sandals on my feet. I will then review your transgressions and pass sentencing. For example: “…I find you guilty as charged for disrespect towards the Queen, countless instances of misbehavior and having a non-subservient attitude. I hereby sentence you to a woodshed whuppin’ with [insert implement(s)], until I deem you have shed enough tears and learned your lesson.
- Assuming The Position – I will then tell you to either to “Bend over” or “Assume the position.” You will immediately get up, walk to the end of the bed, pull down your shorts & underwear and bend over the end of the bed, as I get up and position myself to the left side of you. Exception: If I am spanking you with a sandal, bath, shower or hair brush, then I’ll put you over my knee in the leg lock position.
- Pre-Punishment Statement – I will ask you if you have something to say to me before I carry out your spanking and it had better be something close to this:
I realize I have once again crossed my Queen with my unacceptable behavior and now must face the harsh consequences. But I am grateful for your love and discipline, as your painful corrections improve my attitude and behavior.
May the severe pain felt during this punishment also serve to remind me of what “being bad” feels like and mitigate future occurrences.
With that, I sorrowfully admit my guilt, and fearfully request that you spank me severely and without mercy as you feel I deserve.
After you finish your statement, I may have a few words of my own OR
I may just start meting out the punishment.
- No Warm Up – As always, there is no warm up for a punishment spanking. I am going to start spanking severely from the very beginning.
- Bare Butt & Swat/Lash Area – All spankings will be given on your bare butt, starting from the top of your butt to the upper backs of your legs. Exception: If I’m using a paddle, then the swats will only be on your butt.
- Minimal Moving – You are to stay bent over the bed, keeping both feet on the floor and both hands or forearms on the bed. Your knees may buckle slightly but you had better not lift your feet off the floor or arms off the bed. Failure to maintain position (as determined by ME), will earn you additional “penalty” swats or lashes at the end of the spanking for each instance.
- No Swearing – You may grunt, cry out, and say some variation of “Oww”, but you are not permitted to swear. Doing so, will add another 10 “penalty” swats or lashes at the end of the spanking for each cuss word.
- No Talking – You may only speak if I ask you a direct question. All other talking will incur penalty swats or lashes at the end of the spanking. The only exception to this rule, is during the “final count” as described below.
- Final Count – As you know, I like to end these spankings with a “final count”. After tanning your hide for what I feel is an appropriate amount of punishment, I will give you a number (usually 10, sometimes 20), and tell you to “Count ‘em”. The appropriate count from you is, “1, thank you.” “2, thank you.” and so on. I don’t care if you’re crying (which you likely will be), you had better find a way to blurt it out because if I feel you’re stalling or just talking too long, then you’re going to get another swat or lash that doesn’t count towards the final number.
- Post Spanking – At the end of the final count/spanking, you are to stay bent over as I review and administer any earned “Penalty swats/lashes”. You are to stay bent over until I tell you to “Come here.” at which point you are to approach me, then kneel before me and hold on around my waist while I stroke your hair.
- Post Spanking Creed – Then I’ll step back and go sit in my Throne holding the last implement I used on your backside and tell you to recite your creed:
Thank you my Queen, for holding me accountable for my actions,
as I am cultivated by your harsh, yet just punishments. I recognize your superiority and am privileged that you are my Queen.
I am very sorry for my transgressions and look forward to showing you
examples of my improved attitude and behavior.
- Show of Subservience – If you’re lucky, I’ll let you show your subservience by kissing my feet. While sitting in my throne and still holding the implement, I’ll lift up my foot without saying a word. You are to quickly but gently remove my sandal and kiss the sole of that foot. When I say, “Ok.” Then you are to put my sandal back on, kiss the top of my foot and then we’ll do the same for my other foot.
- Pick Up – When you’re done showing your subservience, you are to put everything away. I’ll hand you the implement I was holding (unless I was wearing it, in which case I’ll put it or them back on) and your are to put it (along with any other implement) in its/their respective place(s).
- Log The Spanking – Within 24 hours, you are to add the spanking to our spanking log detailing what you got it with and other insight as to how the spanking went. Optional: If you feel so inclined, you may also write me a letter of thanks or thoughts of the spanking you just received.
So that’s it. My real spanking rules. Feel free to adopt them as your own or use them as a starting point and create something specific for you and your man.
By having rules like this in place and him knowing there are consequences if he doesn’t follow them. Further establishes that it is indeed a very real and no non-sense whuppin’. After one or two of these sessions, the very threat of you giving him a real spanking will speak VOLUMES to him and oftentimes be enough to straighten him up right on the spot.