Punishment Spanking Rules

fm punishment strappingIn our house, when I assign my husband a punishment spanking, there are rules that I have created to make sure his punishments are consistent and effective. Below are the current rules I gave him with some added detail.

  1. Sentencing – If I am wearing the implement to be used for the spanking (like my sandal or belt), I will take it off and then sit in the big chair in our room (which becomes my Throne anytime I sit in it). If I have decided on spanking you with a different implement, then I will send you to get it, along with their corresponding sandals if I’m not already wearing them. You will hand me the implement, kneel in front of me and put the sandals on my feet. I will then review your transgressions and pass sentencing. For example: “…I find you guilty as charged for disrespect towards the Queen, countless instances of misbehavior and having a non-subservient attitude. I hereby sentence you to a woodshed whuppin’ with [insert implement(s)], until I deem you have shed enough tears and learned your lesson.
  1. Assuming The Position – I will then tell you to either to “Bend over” or “Assume the position.” You will immediately get up, walk to the end of the bed, pull down your shorts & underwear and bend over the end of the bed, as I get up and position myself to the left side of you. Exception: If I am spanking you with a sandal, bath, shower or hair brush, then I’ll put you over my knee in the leg lock position.
  1. Pre-Punishment Statement – I will ask you if you have something to say to me before I carry out your spanking and it had better be something close to this:

I realize I have once again crossed my Queen with my unacceptable behavior and now must face the harsh consequences. But I am grateful for your love and discipline, as your painful corrections improve my attitude and behavior.

May the severe pain felt during this punishment also serve to remind me of what “being bad” feels like and mitigate future occurrences.

With that, I sorrowfully admit my guilt, And fearfully request that you take your [implement(s)] and spank me severely and without mercy as I deserve.

bending punishment strapAfter you finish your statement, I may have a few words of my own OR
I may just start meting out the punishment.

  1. No Warm Up – As always, there is no warm up for a punishment spanking. I am going to start spanking severely from the very beginning.
  1. Bare Butt & Swat/Lash Area – All spankings will be given on your bare butt, starting from the top of your butt to the upper backs of your legs. Exception: If I’m using a paddle, then the swats will only be on your butt.
  1. Minimal Moving – You are to stay bent over the bed, keeping both feet on the floor and both hands or forearms on the bed. Your knees may buckle slightly but you had better not lift your feet off the floor or arms off the bed. Failure to maintain position (as determined by ME), will earn you additional “penalty” swats or lashes at the end of the spanking for each instance.
  1. No Swearing – You may grunt, cry out, and say some variation of “Oww”, but you are not permitted to swear. Doing so, will add another 10 “penalty” swats or lashes at the end of the spanking for each cuss word.
  1. No Talking – You may only speak if I ask you a direct question. All other talking will incur penalty swats or lashes at the end of the spanking. The only exception to this rule, is during the “final count” as described below.
  1. Final Count – As you know, I like to end these spankings with a “final count”. After tanning your hide for what I feel is an appropriate amount of punishment, I will give you a number (usually 10, sometimes 20), and tell you to “Count ‘em”. The appropriate count from you is, “1, thank you.” “2, thank you.” and so on. I don’t care if you’re crying (which you likely will be), you had better find a way to blurt it out because if I feel you’re stalling or just talking too long, then you’re going to get another swat or lash that doesn’t count towards the final number.

wrecked backside

  1. Post Spanking – At the end of the final count/spanking, you are to stay bent over as I review and administer any earned “Penalty swats/lashes”. You are to stay bent over until I tell you to “Come here.” at which point you are to approach me, then kneel before me and hold on around my waist while I stroke your hair.
  1. Post Spanking Creed – Then I’ll step back and go sit in my Throne holding the last implement I used on your backside and tell you to recite your creed:

Thank you my Queen, for holding me accountable for my actions,
as I am cultivated by your harsh, yet just punishments. I recognize your superiority and am privileged that you are my Queen.
I am very sorry for my transgressions and look forward to showing you
examples of my improved attitude and behavior.

  1. Show of Subservience – If you’re lucky, I’ll let you show your subservience by kissing my feet. While sitting in my throne and still holding the implement, I’ll lift up my foot without saying a word. You are to quickly but gently remove my sandal and kiss the sole of that foot. When I say, “Ok.” Then you are to put my sandal back on, kiss the top of my foot and then we’ll do the same for my other foot.

sole of her foot

  1. Pick Up – When you’re done showing your subservience, you are to put everything away. I’ll hand you the implement I was holding (unless I was wearing it, in which case I’ll put it or them back on) and your are to put it (along with any other implement) in its/their respective place(s).
  1. Log The Spanking – Within 24 hours, you are to add the spanking to our spanking log detailing what you got it with and other insight as to how the spanking went. Optional: If you feel so inclined, you may also write me a letter of thanks or thoughts of the spanking you just received.

So that’s it. My real spanking rules. Feel free to adopt them as your own or use them as a starting point and create something specific for you and your man.

By having rules like this in place and him knowing there are consequences if he doesn’t follow them. Further establishes that it is indeed a very real and no non-sense whuppin’. After one or two of these sessions, the very threat of you giving him a real spanking will speak VOLUMES to him and oftentimes be enough to straighten him up right on the spot.

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As a 24/7, female-led, DD couple, we only use spanking for punishment and there are certain rules. While not written like yours, our have evolved over the course of our DD relationship. We do not have a formal sentencing like yours, but when an infraction has been committed, punishment follows immediately. Even away from home, the spanking takes place as soon as possible after the offense. Assuming the position varies due to where we are. However it always includes me baring my ass and presenting to her for punishment. There is no pre-punishment statement from me…she states the offense I committed and I agree that punishment is necessary. No movement…. I am allowed to squirm a bit, but not move far out of position and must almost immediately return to position and present my ass for the next stroke. I am not allowed to swear of even talk unless spoken to. We don’t do the final count as all offenses on our list have a prescribed punishment. There are 3 levels and state the number of strokes, position and implement. She does have the authority to alter anything in the prescribed punishment. She mostly uses it a guide for punishment. After the spanking, I thank her but am left alone to reflect on my behavior. I do maintain a log of punishment spankings and update it after each spanking.


Oh, I agree…. Her spankings may not be quite as harsh as yours, but I willfully submit and accept whatever she dishes out. Our punishment spankings differ from maintenance spankings in 3 ways….No warm up, no safe word, and no after care.

I just started following your website and like it very much. I have a blog on here detailing my maintenance spankings. Check it out sometime…..mymaintenanceday.blogspot.com. Love to know what you think about it.


Dan Show

Love the punishment rules , takes a strong man to comply I bet

Randy Glenn Washburn

Love to get a whipping


Good rules. One thing to consider: my wife insists for me to be completely naked for punishment.


I think if my ex wife disciplined me we would still be married. I remember one year she told me to look after the garden while she went for a two week stay at her parents but me being lazy I didn’t water the garden and everything she planted was dead when she got back.I felt so guilty and I should have suggested a suitable punishment like a belting would put things right.


Yes, I totally agree.

John Raven

Trying to encourage my wife to administer an over the knee spanking, as a pre curser to sex, however she appears very reluctant to do so?


Outstanding list of rules for a naughty boy to follow! And the photograph of his well-spanked bottom is how i believe MY bottom should look on a regular basis. Great job!


My wife has very similar punishment rules as you do. She can order punishment at any time for any reason, there is no appeal, her word is final. Before it starts, I have to strip completely, kneel at her feet and state what I’ve done and ask for her discipline. Then assume the position, usually bent over the bed or couch, sometimes outside in the back. She will proceed with the spanking, using as much force as she wants for however long she wants, using the implement of her choice. I’m not allowed to move or speak unless told to, if I do she will correct it quickly, usually with a hard smack or squeeze to my balls. Once she starts, she shows no mercy at all, more than a few times I’ve had marks or bruises for a few days.

Afterwards, I have to kneel again and thank her for punishing me for what I have done. Depending on her mood, that may be the end of it, or she may make me stand or kneel in the corner. A few times she had a friend of hers over when it happens to watch.


She indeed does, even if I have behaved she will still sometimes give me a good hiding, just because, and to remind me who is boss. The last one just a few days ago, and I still feel it and have the marks.



Amber sissy

I am a very submissive crossdressing sissy and my wife has started spanking me but she also lets my sister-in-law so it and that is not fun. She is an ex-marine and she hates me. When she spanks me I know I will be crying like a little school girl before she gets through. She always tells me she is going to spank me with her leather belt as hard as she can until she can’t raise her arm up again.

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