Pre-Company Spankings

sitting on the bed holding a beltAs some of our readers may already know, I gave my husband quite the belt whuppin’ a couple weeks ago. If you haven’t see it already, here’s his account of that domestic discipline spanking over the coffee table. He still has some marks and bruising from that spanking, along with a good attitude and good behavior. After a harsh spanking like that, he’ll generally behave himself for at least 3 to 4 weeks. Sometimes a little longer. Around that point, I can almost count on some orneriness to start creeping back in and it quickly spirals downward. But, for these upcoming weeks, I’m going to enjoy the fruits of my handy work with the belt and he’ll enjoy a good disposition and not getting himself into trouble or spanked during this time. So with said, I thought I’d share a tip I like to use sometimes before we have company stay with us.

Pre-Company Spankings

My husband and I generally host company several times a year as we both have family out of state who come to visit. We enjoy these visits but, for obvious reasons, they can interfere with me meting out any punishments my husband earns immediately before or during the visits. Plus, as men tend to do, sometimes he gets a little extra machismo when he has an audience. A bunch of boys get together and it’s like they just can’t help themselves! LOL While I do enjoy SOME playfulness and wouldn’t want to squelch that entirely, I’ve found that a good pre-company spanking does WONDERS for my husband’s attitude, demeanor and eagerness to assist with getting the house ready for company, as well as his behavior while company is here. For my lady friends out there who spank their husbands, here are some tips that I hope can help you out as well.

woodshed with strapTrip To The Woodshed

As I’ve mentioned, I end up giving my husband a woodshed whuppin’ about every other month. He also gets attitude adjustments here and there but when I really tear his backside up during what we call a trip to the woodshed, he is so well balanced, behaved, and eager to please. So with that said, when company is going to be coming over for a stay, it is not too hard to time out his next spanking accordingly. Oftentimes, it’s just a matter of postponing a spanking a week or two. On one hand, I have to put up with his arrogant behavior a little longer, but on the other hand, he just digs himself into deeper trouble earning even a more severe spanking than what he would’ve gotten. Often times it is worth the trade off.

Timing

bent over chairYou might think that spanking your husband right before your company arrives is the way to go, but I’ve learned from experience that one week before is the perfect time for a pre-company spanking. The reason being, is that right after a woodshed whuppin’, he is a whupped pup. Very subservient, very eager to please and very subdued. Don’t get me wrong, I understand why and appreciate that part of the process. I enjoy the daily kisses to my foot, the impromptu foot and back massages and other tantalizing things he does to me. BUT…when we are having company, I like him to have a little of that “puppy” back in him that our friends and family recognize. A week after a real whuppin’, he is still well behaved and still eager to please but is more like himself. Just very balanced and still very well behaved.

Helping Hand

couple cookingAs I mentioned before, our FLR situation is a bit modified. I do generally get what I want but we are still very much a partnership and loving couple. We just have real discipline/accountability for him added into the mix. My point is that I don’t ~want~ my husband to be my whipping boy or servant. And as is the case, I don’t try to command him to do everything around the house in preparation for company. We both take roles in that preparation. He has his list of chores he needs to do (that he usually comes up with himself), and I have my list of chores I need to do before company comes. But when I blister his backside a week before company arrives, he is ALL OVER his list. Very motivated to get everything done and in great fashion. Prior to these pre-company spankings, it wasn’t uncommon for 1 or 2 items from his list to not get done. Sometimes those things were not a big deal but sometimes there were things that WERE a big deal and caused me some frustration that it didn’t get done. After incorporating this practice, there is a certain “pep in his step” in doing the things he needs to do, and the added benefit of not having to keep reminding (OK nagging) him about the items on his list.

The Spanking

Like I’ve said, I almost always time this out so that it is a woodshed whuppin’ level spanking. There are several posts about how those go down on our blog. But when it is also a pre-company spanking, I do talk a little more. After the initial part of the spanking, I’ll ask in between swats if he’s is going to behave during company. I’ll also remind him that if he misbehaves while company is here, that I WILL find the time and the place to take the Wicked Switch to him. (It is silent and extremely effective.)

Reminders On My Feet & Around My Waist

For the most part, I can rely on the whuppin’ itself (and his sore bottom) to remind him to behave but it helps to have little reminders as well. Here is another case for “sandal associations for spankings”. For instance, and as many readers already know…the meanest belt in our house, is my Italian leather belt that has been oiled and conditioned through the years. It is dense, pliable, and heavy. It is my go-to belt when I decide on belting him for a spanking as it is very effective in blistering and bruising his backside.

He’ll feel the after effects of that belt every time he leans against a counter or sits down for about a week after I spank him with it. It also happens to be one of my favorite belts. I like to wear it during company visits and he’s told me that just the sight of it causes him to pause and check himself to make sure he’s not messing up. The same thing can be said for what sandals I wear on my feet. I have a certain pair of tan sandals that I always wear before, during, and after I spank him with the water soaked cane. In addition, I have another pair of black sandals that I always wear when he gets it with the Wicked Switch. Another pair for the razor strap, another pair for a punishment strap, etc. By doing this, he associates each pair of those sandals with a very painful implement.

domestic discipline slide

None of these sandals in and of themselves would be capable of teaching him a harsh lesson but he knows what each one represents and corresponds to, and pays mind to it. There have been times where he starts going off track just a bit and I can simply go sit by him for a spell, cross my legs, and casually dangle the sandal on my foot. Without saying a word, he’ll notice my sandal, be reminded of what it means, and quickly get himself back on track. See the power, ladies? I’ll generally then put my hand on his leg, lean in for a kiss and then excuse myself to go mingle some more. These tactics not only help keep him in line, they (not gonna lie) make me feel powerful and sexy. In addition, for us at least, they make us feel closer as a couple. It’s our little inside joke hiding in plain sight with no one the wiser.

 

So…my spanking wives and girlfriends out there. I highly encourage you to try this approach next time you have company coming into town. I think you’ll be glad you did.

9 thoughts on “Pre-Company Spankings

  1. I notice one of the illustrations is of a black wooden rod. Naturally, a wise woman knows the importance of using a cane. And my husband certainly gets it frequently, although he only gets a really severe session occasionally.
    You picture the cane, but I have not seen much discussion on your blog of what i consider a necessary part of a DD marriage.

    1. Hello Janice and thanks for the comment. The black rod you speak of is actually what we refer to as the Wicked Switch and it is THE most painful implement in the house. 2nd to that is the cane. The cane was used more frequently prior to the arrival of the wicked switch but I still do use it on occasion. My husband actually has a blog in draft status about the cane but I don’t know what the hold up is on finishing and publishing. I may have to light a fire under his ass to get that post up. I have several canes but two are my favorite. A white lexan cane we call White Lightning and a regular rattan cane. When I am going to spank him with with the rattan cane, he is required to soak it in water for a day and a half to two day before the spanking. The cane soaks up some of the water and gets heavier and more flexible…and much more severe. 😉

  2. Hi Wicked Queen – (Although you don’t seem that wicked to me…more interesting [and intelligent and exciting] 🙂 )Wow, I just found your site. Love it! Been trying to introduce my wife into FLR for some time, but not 100% sure how to ease her into it where she is genuinely interested. (been married for over 20 yrs) You provide some great insights though. Thanks for that. By the way, is that a picture of you holding the bath brush with the bass sandals? (above) The reason I ask is…I grew up in the 80s and bass sandals were so popular. I can remember being paddled by my teacher out in the hall in 9th grade (group up in the South) while she wore bass sandals. Just like you wrote about associating sandals to spankings…it is so true. She paddled me twice and both times she was wearing bass sandals like the ones in the picture. I think that point on I have always associated those sandals with getting paddled. Just the sound of the smacking noise when you walk makes me think of it. You can only imagine my reaction..and how my heart started to race…when I first saw that picture. Oh my! If that is your pic, I sure would love it if you would grace us with more especially wearing those as you say “whuppin’ sandals” Thanks so much, Peak! 🙂

    1. Hello and thanks for visiting the site and the kind words. I would agree with you that I’m really not that “Wicked”. 😉 Well…A majority of the time. My husband gave me that moniker to describe my persona when I give him a domestic discipline spanking, I take his infractions very seriously and carry out the punishment in a no nonsense fashion. No warm ups, no rubbing his behind in between swats, and spanking hard…one swat after another.

      Regarding your situation with your wife…I wrote a blog not too long ago that is addressed towards ladies called, “Why Women Should Consider A F/M Spanking Relationship”. I intentionally left out the term FLR for a couple reasons. 1) What my husband and I do is a fairly modified form of it. And 2) True FLR may be more responsibility than a wife or gf wants to take on. Or could sound more intimidating to them. Besides, if they see the value of what I term a “spanking relationship”, that can evolve into something more in line with what you both want.

      Lastly, yes. All three pictures in that set are me. And good eye on the Bass sandals. It is funny that you mention that as my husband bought those for me a long time ago for a similar reason. Granted, he didn’t have a spanking memory tied to them, but has always found them sexy. Good luck with your wife and I hope you come back to read more on our blog. We both write posts, which provides good perspective from both sides.

  3. When we are having company, I do both of the punishments you describe: Several days beforehand, so I know that everything on his honey-do list will be done, and also right before their arrival, so he will behave himself in his interactions with them. My husband has very different political views than my relatives, for instance, and he definitely needs a reminder to bite his tongue when one of my brothers makes a comment. I don’t want him like a puppy when they are here; I want him to be a topnotch host who is engaged with his guests and serving their needs, whether it’s bringing them a drink, or setting up some game so the kids are out of our hair, or joining in conversation with RESPECT.

    To make sure of this, I spank him right before their arrival. Sometimes he is still pulling himself together in the shed when they pull into the driveway! He comes out with a red face and has to make some excuse of what he was just doing exerting himself that gave him a red face and a “sore back.” Which brings a smile to my face!
    Antonia

    1. LOL. On many occasions when we’ve had company over and my husband has a wrecked and sore backside, he’ll sit down and make a grunt and/or grimace. And his go to statement is usually, “Ah, I pulled a muscle in my back lifting weights the other day and still a little sore.” Brings a smile to my face as well. Good stuff. 🙂

    2. Hi Antonio

      Interesting aspect!
      I never thought of giving Stef a spanking BEFORE the arrival of guests – or else: before leaving to see friends or family at their places
      Stef only “gets it” when he effectively has been trespassing.
      Sitting on my packed suitcases for taking off on holidays tomorrow I wonder whether this time again I will have to do some “attitude adjustment” over the next weeks – just as I had to do all too often during past holidays. It appears to be a “standard holiday itch” that hubbies tend to get cheeky after a few days on holidays.
      So it would be great if he rembered well what’s in stock for him if he disbehaves. Now: My hubby has not given me any reason to give him a good thrashing lately, and I never know how far back his memory will go…
      Based on your lines I am seriously considering to introduce “before departure” spankings. Another idea I am contemplating is to introduce “maintenance spankings” (like a short but memorable caning every two weeks at a set time).
      I wonder what other strict Ladies think about that and would welcome comments.

      Well, for these holidays the wooden bath-brush and a number of very whacky leather slides are already packed..

      Sandy

      1. Sandy,
        I am very big on “before departure” and “pre-company” spankings. My husband needs these reminders before we are with people I care about. He has embarrassed me too many times to not get a thrashing ahead of time. When he can still feel the sting at a party, he behaves much better. The sting reminds him to think before he speaks.
        We don’t do scheduled maintenance spankings, but I certainly understand why they would work for some. I don’t like being on a schedule. He would like it because he finds the idea so erotic. But i think it’s more effective in terms of discipline to surprise him. When I see an inkling of attitude, he gets threatened. If there’s a second inkling, he gets a trip to the shed.
        Antonia

        1. Hi Antonia
          Many thanks for your thoughts. I appreciate your comments very much.
          I will definitely consider your method, though I still have some hesitations to spank Stef – quasi out of the blue – right before meeting friends or relations.
          However, I am fully with you regarding your statement “..has embarrassed me too many times to not get a thrashing ahead of time”. That really brings it down to the point. I have had that also far too often..
          Maybe I will see clearer after having thought it over during our holidays.

          Kind regards,
          Sandy

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