So most of you probably know what maintenance spankings are. For those of you that don’t. It is simply where the spanker, spanks the spankee periodically (usually weekly), at usually a set day. Normally they are not a full blown punishment spankings, but just enough of a spanking to convey the point of who is in charge and to remind the spankee, why they should continue to behave. Of course there are all sorts of variations to this and again, we maintain the position that, whatever works for each couple, is the way to go. But thought we’d provide this brief description to give the uninitiated a quick insight.
Joey and I had been talking about maintenance spankings for a little while now. Actually since the end of last year. In fact, we had all but decided that after his last trip to the woodshed (First Woodshed Whuppin’ of 2021), we’d give it about a month or so (after the effects from the trip to the woodshed started wearing off), and then switch over to doing maintenance spankings about a month or so to test it out.
The thought being that when he gets taken to the woodshed for a whoopin’, it is a significant spanking. Usually in the area of 80 to 100 swats or lashes. And those woodshed whuppin’s keep him in check for a month to a month and a half afterward. So the original idea was that, if he were to get 20 “maintenance” swats/spanking every week, then over the course of a normal month, he’d get 4 spankings for an accumulative total of 80 swats. BUT…the 80 swats would be spread out weekly, less severe and with less severe implements, that it would be something that benefited HIM.
But the main sticking point we both kept coming to, was that I would be spanking him for doing “nothing”. I don’t really like the thought of that. I don’t WANT to bring him pain for no reason.
Now I DO like giving him any needed discipline that he’s earned. I DO enjoy spanking the arrogance and attitude out of his backside when he’s been a brat. I DO like feeling justice is being or has been served. But I like all those things WHEN he’s done something (or things) to actually earn the spanking.
When he’s being good, the last thing I think about is giving him a discipline spanking. I don’t like the idea of hurting him for no reason. And after talking about it, he too mentioned that he doesn’t like the possibility of, after a week of being helpful, productive, and not a brat, that he’d get spanked at the end of the week anyway.
Another potential pitfall for us is that oftentimes, when Joey has earned a woodshed whoopin’, he’ll just continue down the road of being bad as he knows he’s going to get it anyway and might as well go out in a “blaze of glory”. So I could see him, knowing that he’s going to get it later in the day, just being a brat because he knows he’s going to get spanked anyway. OR…perhaps he’d act up so he actually felt like he did something to be spanked for? Hmmm…
The other thing that occurred to me was the thought that it could become like a chore. Time to take out the garbage, time to wash the car, time to vacuum the dining room, time to spank my husband. LOL.
So, for US…we’ve decided to not go forward with the maintenance spanking test. We’re going to keep on doing what we do. Eventually he’ll start slipping…In fact, as of this post, he’s already slipping from the last whuppin’, which I am downgrading to just “an attitude adjustment”. So I’ll be taking care of that very soon. And then after that, I’ll probably get the usual month to month and a half of good behavior until, he earns himself an attitude adjustment or another trip to the woodshed.
I think the most important takeaway here however, is that we approached a concept regarding consensual spanking, discussed it at great length, and then both decided we didn’t want to go that route for reasons important to us. And that’s really key for any couple in any type of spanking relationship. Even when doing “fun spankings”, communication and setting expectations will go a long way towards keeping it fun.
Again, we’re not rippin’ on maintenance spankings. We understand that some couples employ and enjoy them for a variety of reasons, and we respect that. We like the position of, “To Each Their Own”.
So…what are YOUR thoughts about Maintenance Spanking? Let us know in the comments! 🙂