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domestic discipline couple spankingSo, where to begin. Well in the interest of keeping SOME anonymity I’m not going to get too detailed about myself. But I’ll give some background to give you an idea of our situation. I’m a happily married guy who has an awesomely sexy wife. And YES, that’s us in the picture on the right, taken in the middle of a harsh domestic discipline spanking or what we now refer to as a woodshed whuppin’s.

At any rate, when we first started dating (many, many moons ago), I introduced my very “vanilla” girlfriend to fun spankings, which quickly became our favorite kind of foreplay. I’ve always been infatuated with spanking since I was young, and this was a great way to introduce it to mi’ lady. As a matter of fact, I was able to get just about all my girlfriend to spank me to some degree or another, and even wrote a “how to” book about it, to help those who didn’t know how to introduce it or approach it with their significant other. See How To Get Your GF or Wife to SPANK YOU.

At first, we were what is known as a “switch,” which simply means that we would take turns being on the giving and receiving ends. It started with her being “Mistress” for the week and I the slave. When Mistress “was in town,” I would have to be mindful and respectful of her wishes. Of course, I always pushed her buttons in the hope of getting a spanking, and I did. The next week, “Master” would come into town and expect the appropriate subservience from his slave girl, who would also push his buttons.

It was great fun, and we were both very communicative about the spankings afterwards, which kept us in tune with each other’s desires. I also think that we both knew how the (insert whatever spanking implement was used here) felt and could appreciate that when we were the ones wielding it.

As we grew in intensity, we also smartly incorporated the use of safewords to ensure safe play. Over the course of years, I found that I would push my limits farther, and she was happy to remain at the pain levels she liked. This was cool for both of us, and as more years passed, this was just a way of life for us.

Now just to interject. If you saw us at a restaurant or grocery store, you wouldn’t think anything other just a young couple in love. We weren’t disrespectful to each other, nor would we try to humiliate each other in public or even in private, for that matter. It was just our little fun that we shared, and no one was the wiser.

We eventually got married, had a beautiful wedding, an awesome honeymoon, and started a great life together. As a young couple without kids, we (ok, I) hung up quite the assortment of disciplinary implements we had procured over the years. Paddles, canes, and leather punishment straps were hung on the walls of our bedroom in lieu of traditional artwork. Easy access for quick use!

black toe ring sandalsOver the years, we also realized the convenience of wearing and later using a leather belt to tan the hide of a misbehaving bottom at first chance. My wife also wears sandals often, and I found out the hard way that many of her sandals are actually mean little paddles disguised as her footwear.

We continued our weekly Mistress or Master in Town routine for years. It wasn’t anything so rigorous or regimented that it was weird; it was just done in a playful way at certain times that we both seemed to be dialed into.

So fast forward a few years after that, and again, as part of our constant communication about our spanking activities, we started to grow more into the roles where she liked giving spankings more and getting them less, and I enjoyed getting them more and giving them less. It was a perfect shift to the next phase in our fascinating and fun pain game.

Pressing the fast forward button…a-gain, we have now evolved to where she is only the one dishing out the spankings. And through good communication, we’ve even evolved into discipline spankings, or domestic discipline, where she’ll give me a REAL spanking whenever I mess up. Be it making a payment late that costs us a late fee or one of the worst “whuppins’ I got, was for driving home after having a little too much to drink. She waited until the next day, when I was wasn’t buzzed and blistered my butt good woman holding doubled over beltwith her meanest leather belt, then wooden paddle. I couldn’t sit without feeling it for over a week! But you know what? I’m GRATEFUL to have gotten that punishment spanking, because that was damn stupid of me to put my and others’ lives at risk. I thoroughly deserved that spanking, and there was nothing enjoyable about it, but I’m happy she gave it to me. As a side note, I’ve never done it again. Not just because of the spanking, but because I realized how stupid that was. Although the spanking did leave an impression on me.

So there we have it; I’ve become quite the expert in pain. I know how to spank, and more recently, I know how different implements have different painful properties.

I guess I’ll close this opening blog post, but stay tuned as I will post about actual discipline spankings that my wife has given me. I’ll also share when a spanking is “on the board” for me, post spanking thoughts and reflection, and will also write about spanking implements, spanking tips, tricks, and general notes about spanking from a spanking and well-spanked expert. 🙂


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As for domestic discipline where spanking is used as penalty, I think the odds are people who live such a lifestyle, have a spanking fetish.
In fact other penalties than spanking could be applied like : revoking rights, pay money as a penalty, writing lines, and more. However their choice is spanking. I include caning, belting, birching, paddlings into this.

I think people who are into domestic discipline, people who apply maintenance spankings, fun spankings, regression play like for instance school play with corporal punishement, what these people have in common is a fascination for spanking.
I came accross an interesting blog:


After reading this blog I felt quite some recognition. Maybe others here after reading it feel the same recognition as I did and I hope that maybe it could help some people to accept who and what they are. 
I hope the owners of this site, Joey and The Wicked Queen don’t mind my referring to a different site. 

Dan Show

Wow the 20 things about true spankos nailed it. From an early age when masterbating as a teen it always revolved around spankings, still does ! I do believe it is a genetic thing many are born with. I also think about spankings constantly before and after discipline, during I cant wait for them to end lol.


YES to all these comments!

I discussed DD with Todd at length before his first paddling. I felt my husband was to a degree lazy, inconsiderate at times, and had a few bad habits. He’s a great husband, but I felt he needed the structure and discipline a FLR and regular harsh punishment spankings would provide our marriage

Todd became aware very quickly there’s nothing sexual about his corporal punishment, at least for him! ;). His arousal disappeared very quickly when he found out this was not a fun spanking, but a very painful unfriendly whipping that ended only well after tears were streaming down his face and desperation cries were coming from his lips along with deep gasping sobs.

Todd is unable to sit after DD, so I insist he remain bare naked and rub my bare feet, and thank me for the discipline and leadership

To my surprise, after Todds first paddling I found myself more aroused than I thought possible. The nudity, the power surge of causing a strong man to weep desperately, the female domination all created a perfect storm for my libido. How fitting that the paddlings take away Todd’s arousal, and highly supercharge mine. Todd is no longer allowed to climax except for when I force him to “relieve himself” for me prior to a spanking. Which makes his spanking hurt even worse.

Dan Show

Colleen, I don’t know if I could take spankings after climax all the time. My wife does this occasionally and once I climax I am no longer as submissive. We have the honor system on chastity (she won’t put me in a device because she says what if you are in a car accident wearing it?) lol. Like your mother always said wear clean underwear. That being said she controls orgasms. I never cheat matter. I actually enjoy the denial be it helps me stay behaved and submissive. Once I climax I tend to become the cocky guy that earns me more spankings. 😏 vicious circle. lljotk@yahoo.com


Oh Dan, I force Todd to “relieve himself” specifically so the paddlings will be more painful. Sexual arousal releases endorphins, creating a natural “high” which can diminish the effectiveness of the punishment. I get Todds tears flowing so quickly this way, he cannot stand the stinging pain as i redden his bare bottom, when the tears flow I’m only half done with his paddling. Afterward……I reward him, Todd has a foot fetish, so he remains nude and kisses, rubs, smells my bare smelly feet like a good submissive husband should.


Yup me being 69 in a few weeks and my wife turning 66 two days before I too find myself having my butt blistered usually on a weekly basis. What started as a playful birthday spanking about 10 years ago has turned into she’s she boss and I’m the one with the reddened bottom. Happy wife, happy life …. even if I can’t sit for a lil bit. 🖐😄

The Wicked Queen

Love to hear it! 🙂


Hintern Peitschen klasse (Translated to: Butt Whipping great)

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